The Buddha said “Attachment is the root of suffering” and I clarify that and say that expectation, the attachment to someone other than yourself fulfilling your desires, is the root of suffering.
Never greater is our suffering than in a relationship. Be it platonic, familial or intimate, never is our imperfect humanness more apparent than when we are relating to others. Never is the abundance of opportunity for freedom and enlightenment more prevalent than in our relationships.
Too often we look to others to sustain us, to complete us, to approve of us, to validate us, to fulfill us, to repair us, to save us so much so that when they “fail us” as they will inevitably do, we are left broken and that is no state to be in.
No one else can be as motivated to do for you than you can be for yourself. FACT: No one else has your motivations, has lived your experiences or has your perspectives when combined create your desires. Then why, if your desires are your own, would you expect someone else to manifest them for you?
Certainly, others may help us along our journey to our destination: bliss but no one other than you can reach your bliss and the longer you depend on or expect others to take you to your bliss, the farther away you get from your true destination.
Love yourself the way you want to be loved and never be disappointed again.