Healthy Relationship Checklist

These are just some of the things I believe are required to find, create and sustain mature, healthy intimate relationships:

  • Heal from past traumas

  • Practice forgiveness of self and of hurts inflicted upon you

  • Create a safe space for open and honest communication

  • Know your triggers

  • Set and respect clear boundaries

  • Set relationship expectations and intentions

  • Have a shared value system (total opposites may attract but may not be able to be sustained)

  • Be willing to be vulnerable

  • Continue your personal development work

  • Practice self-care

  • Practice active and compassionate listening

  • Understand that what people say, do, think and feel has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them

  • Practice unconditional love

  • Practice self-acceptance

  • Be humble (accept that you don’t know everything and that inherent in relationships is learning and growth)

  • Have a support system outside of the relationship

  • Honor your emotions

  • Commit to empowering your partner to be self-expressed

  • Be willing to understand and appreciate your partner’s perspectives, ideas, and opinions

  • Periodic evaluation of the relationship to ensure you both still both want the same things

  • Separate consciously and lovingly when you are no longer able or willing to fulfill the others’ needs

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